“I DON’T
UNDERSTAND IT. The techniques my parents used so effectively just don't seem to work with kids today.” Does this statement sound familiar to you? A lot of parents today are wondering what to do with their kids and are frustrated because the old techniques just don't seem to get the job done.
A lot of conflicting philosophies have been presented over the last thirty years. Many of these sound good, but don't seem to do the job of helping children become respectful, responsible, and a joy to be around. There is, however, an approach to raising kids that provides loving support from parents while at the same time expecting kids to be respectful and responsible. This program is known as Parenting with Love and Logic, a philosophy founded by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., and based on the experience of a combined total of over 75 years working with and raising kids.
The objective of "Becoming a Love and Logic Parent" is to teach simple, practical techniques to help raise responsible kids in a loving way.
How do we do this?
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By running our home as much like the real world as possible
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By encouraging children to do the lion's share of thinking
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By encouraging children to own and solve their own mistakes
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By allowing our children to learn from their mistakes
Many parents want their kids to be well prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be accountable for those mistakes. But these parents often fail to hold their kids accountable for poor decisions because they are afraid the kids will see their parents as being mean. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others, including themselves, accountable for their children's irresponsibility.
Jim Fay teaches us that we should "lock in our empathy, love and understanding" prior to telling kids what the consequences of their actions will be. The parenting course, "Becoming a Love and Logic Parent" teaches parents how to hold their kids accountable in this special way. This Love and Logic method causes the child to see their parents as the "good guy" and the child's poor decision as the "bad guy". When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, "I wonder how much pain I'm going to cause myself with my next decision?" Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.
What more could a parent want? Isn't that a great gift to give to your child? Parent-child relationships are enhanced, family life becomes less strained, and we have time to enjoy our kids instead of either feeling used by them or being transformed from parent into policeman.
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